RM>> Not sure if there's a message in this or not but when my ex-wife
  >> and I split up she said at the end that what bothered her most
  >> about me was that:

RM>> 1 - I never argued (I'd think that a good thing?)

RM>> ..And 2 - I always thought I was right, and I always was..
  >> Again.. sounds like it Should be a good thing but maybe not
  >> when viewed from the other side..   B)

MP>For some reason, as I read those, they seem like a contradiction.
  >Like, if you were the (only) one of you that never argued, then
  >how would #2 even be obvious?

This was more about things that didn't evolve into an argument.
She'd say she wanted to do or buy something, and I'd say I didn't
think that was a good idea, and explain why I thought that.

As for the non-arguing thing, if she didn't agree I was right, if
we could afford it, I'd often just let her have it, BUT that rarely
happened. Usually I had good reasons that were obvious once pointed out.

MP>I have met a few women over the years... luckily ones I never dated... that
  >came right out and said that they like to argue and don't like it when men
  >won't argue with them.  Their reasoning, IIRC, is that sometimes they
  >needed to be argued with for some validation purpose... my memory is hazy
  >on that bit now.

This suggests that I'm not the only person who had that problem..
Is this a  'Male' thing?   B)

MP>In some cases, no doubt, it had to do with them being upset with
  >someone else... boss, co-worker, etc... that they didn't feel that
  >they could argue with.

I've met women who are frustrated at work and take it out on their
husbands when they get home for that reason I guess.

My first long term live-in girfriend (4.5 years) didn't have that
problem.. She said exactly what she thought at work.. Of course
she rarely kept a job for more than a few months..    B)

---
 * SLMR Rob  * If I wanted your opinion, I'd take you off my Twit list
 * Origin: Capitol City Online (618:250/10)