Hello Arelor!

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 >> The young and the dateless: Why Gen Z, millennial men aren't approaching
 >> anymore

 A> I don't think it is that people is scared of social consequences as much
 A> as there is not anything to gain from getting involved in serious
 A> relationships, and increasingly more to lose.

Nah.. There's Club Med for those who think like that. Hedonism, fun for a  
short while, but not satisfying as a long-term strategy.

Eventually, we all muse about the meaning of life - and the pursuit of money  
at the expense of fostering close relationships is pretty low for most.  The  
paths we take and how we get there is different for each of us.


 A> Frankly, how many women would want to live with a farm guy whose idea of
 A> fun is canning vegetables? And of those, how many are actually worth the
 A> time of the farm guy?

I've plenty of women posting farm-life vids.


 A> That is the real problem, these days so many women aspire to live the
 A> Instagram lifestyle and if providing that to them does not fit your
 A> schedule they will dump you as soon as they find somebody who will.

Intagram/YT do not preclude documenting the "joys" of farm/rural life.     
Lots of people are doing it.

 A> My experience is that people who is not approaching girls are people who
 A> is conscious of this at some level and they are not willing to sell out
 A> for pussy. I know of an extreme case in my inner social circle: young man
 A> with well paid IT job, his own house (which is huge here) and an active
 A> life... he is one of the few men women are willing to ask out actively. He
 A> usually answers with a rude version of "I am not interested" (my favorite
 A> is "Not with you, space bug!" When we talk about the subject he is very
 A> clear that he is not willing to bend his life goals around a girlfriend.

OK..that's one guy. And there's probably something else that irks him to be  
in a long-term committed relationship.  Meanwhile the persuit of money is a  
fine excuse.


 A> And that is the problem. When you are at the top 15% a girlfriend
 A> represents a huge opportunity cost because the time you spend with her is

So.. does the guy above have a gf?


 A> time you are not growing your finances AND you are also risking your
 A> finances very badly at the same time. If your lifestyle requires a very
 A> specific person to enjoy you are also guaranteed not to get the gal you
 A> like no matter how much you are willing to bend so there is no point.

A gf is not marriage. The expenses are easier controlled in a non-committed  
relationships.  If the cost gets excessive (which would actually be the guy's  
fault, not the girl's) ..you can just dump the person.

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